“You don’t need anyone’s affection or approval in order to be good enough. When someone rejects or abandons or judges you, it isn’t actually about you. It’s about them and their own insecurities, limitations, and needs, and you don’t have to internalize that. Your worth isn’t contingent upon other people’s acceptance of you — it’s something inherent.
You exist, and therefore, you matter. You’re allowed to voice your thoughts and feelings. You’re allowed to assert your needs and take up space. You’re allowed to hold onto the truth that who you are is exactly enough. And you’re allowed to remove anyone from your life who makes you feel otherwise.
“1. Internships are the building blocks of your résumé. Apply to them. Meet people.
2. Choose a degree that is relevant to the real world. Minor in History if you love it so much.
3. Everyone knows how to use Microsoft Office. Putting it under the “Skills” section of your résumé is not impressive.
4. See the world. This is the only time you have in your life to spend months in a foreign country. Take advantage of your lack of responsibility to travel.
5. 99.9% of employers will never look at your transcript. A 4.0 GPA will not land you a job. Good interpersonal skills might.
6. No employer cares whether you were on the executive board of your fraternity or sorority or other campus organization. Serve the organization because you love it, not simply to use it as space-filler on your résumé.
7. Proofread everything. Twice. Or else no one will believe that you’re “detial-oriented.”
8. You have four (or five) years to make something of yourself. Use that time wisely.
9. Go out with your friends on a Tuesday night despite having a test on Wednesday. The test won’t matter in ten years, but your friendships will.
10. Do not expect the college senior to fall in love with you after you sleep together. Actually, just don’t sleep together. This will not end well.
11. Really get to know your professors. Use office hours to your advantage. You never know what doors they can open for you.
12. Graduate school is rarely a good idea, especially if you’re only using it to delay the real world for a few years. The more money you make now, the less debt you’ll have later.
13. Realize that you will be in debt until you’re forty. Make peace with this early.
14. One bad grade won’t ruin your life. Get over yourself.
15. Beware of credit cards. No matter what they say, money isn’t free.
16. Don’t burn bridges. You never know when you might need help from someone.
17. Eat good food. Nothing will make you feel worse than six straight nights of Ramen.
18. Buy a plunger before you actually need said plunger. Just trust me on this one.
19. Press save. It will keep you from having that 4:00am mental breakdown.
20. All-nighters will not help you learn the material. Budget time throughout the day to study so that you can actually sleep before the final exam.
21. Use a condom. No one wants that “I’m late” text.
22. Work during the summers. Employers want someone with real-life experience.
23. Call your mom once a week. She wants to stay involved in your life, and a twenty-minute phone conversation won’t kill you.
24. You have four years to learn your alcohol limit. This will save you from puking at the office Christmas party.
25. The college cafeteria will make you fat. So will alcohol. Be careful about what you’re putting into your body.
26. Find a few hours each week to work out. Cardio is great stress relief.
27. So is sex. Booty calls are sometimes necessary. Don’t beat yourself up for it in the morning.
28. Learn to cook. Eating out is expensive and unhealthy. A few basics can last you a long time.
29. Take pictures. Not everything has to be posted to Instagram, but you will want to have these memories documented.
30. Volunteer. Not because you have to, but because you want to. The Humane Society always needs people to play with the animals.
31. Learn how to budget. Your parents won’t be around to give you money forever.
32. Buy shower shoes. Use them. Save yourself from foot fungus.
33. Beer is expensive. Buy vodka.
34. Interviews are nerve-wracking. Practice with a friend before you go.
35. Find good references. They can be the difference between being offered your dream job and being turned down.
36. It’s okay to turn down your first job offer to wait for a better one. Have faith in yourself.
37. If you’re treated like a slave at your internship, it’s okay to leave. Find a company that sees your worth.
38. Learn how to code HTML. This is an invaluable skill.
39. Also learn Photoshop. Every company in the world needs someone who can design a poster.
40. Take a couple classes just for fun. There’s a difference between smart and educated.
41. Know your priorities. Stick to them.
42. Start searching for a job a year before you graduate. It takes time to find something you want.
43. Apply for jobs you may not be completely qualified for. You may be the only applicant.
44. Don’t get too discouraged when you fail at something. Lay in bed for two days. Cry. Then get back up and start living again.
45. Everyone has something to teach you. Listen to them.
46. Make mistakes, but be sure to learn from them.
47. Textbooks are expensive and you will never need them again. Rent, don’t buy.
48. No one will ever care how wasted you were last night. They saw it first hand. Shut up.
49. No one is responsible for you except you. Think twice before you do something.
50. Don’t think that these have to be the best four years of your life. Life after graduation is pretty awesome too.”—50 Things I Wish I Knew in College (via ohwittlephamnator)
“Date yourself. Take yourself out to eat. Don’t share your popcorn at the movies with anyone. Stroll around an art museum alone. Fall in love with canvases. Fall in love with yourself.”—(via misstewarts)
“One day, he’s going to know. He’ll know your birthday, your middle name, where you were born, your star sign, and your parents names. He’ll know how old you were when you learnt to ride a bike, how your grandparents passed away, how many pets you had, and how much you hated going to school. He’ll know your eye colour, your scars, your freckles, your laugh lines and your birth marks. He’ll know your favourite book, movie, candy, food, pair of shoes, colour, and song. He’s going to know why you’re awake at 5am most nights, where you were when you realised you’d lost a good friend, why you picked up the razor and how you managed to put it down before things went too far. He’s going to know your phobias, your dreams, your fears, your wishes, and your worries. He’s going to know about your first heartbreak, your dream wedding, and your problems with your parents. He’ll know your strengths, weaknesses, laziness, energy, and your mixed emotions. He’s going to know about your love for mayonnaise, your dream of being famous when you were five, your need to quote any film you know all the way through, and your fear of growing older. He’ll know your bad habits, your mannerisms, your stroppy pout, your facial expressions, and your laugh like it’s his favourite song. The way you chew, drink, walk, sleep, fidget and kiss. He’s going to know that you’ve already picked out wedding flowers, baby names, tiles for the bathroom, bridesmaid dresses, and the colour of your bedroom walls. He’s going to know, get annoyed at and then accept that you leave clothes everywhere, take twenty minutes to order a Starbucks, have to organise your DVD’s alphabetically, and check your horoscope… just incase. He’ll know your McDonald’s order, how many sugars to put in your tea, how many scoops of ice cream you want, and that you need your sandwiches cut into triangles. He’s going to know how you feel without you telling him, that you need a wee from a look on your face, and that you’re crying without shedding tears. He’s going to know all of it. Everything. You, from top to bottom and inside out. From learning, from sharing, from listening, from watching. He’s going to know every single thing there is to know, and you know what else? He is still going to love you.”—(via a-skeleton-truth)
The problem with a history of depression and anxiety is that you can never know if you’re “just having one of those weeks” or if you’re sliding back down into those places you swore you’d never go again.